Why Does My Ex Say He Loves Me But Will not Get Back Together?
Ex boyfriend giving you mixed signals? Does he call you up one day saying he still has feelings for you, but ignores you the next day when you call him back?
Does your ex keep telling you that he loves you, even though you're broken up? And yet every time you suggest getting back together with him, does he suddenly run in the opposite direction?
Your situation is a lot more common than you think. Right now, your ex boyfriend might seem or act emotionally conflicted around you. He'll tell you he's confused, or that he wants time alone, or that he 'needs some space' to sort things out. In reality however, something much, much different is going on. And if you want your ex back? You need to recognize exactly what it is.
Reasons Why Your Ex Still Loves You After Breaking Up
Relationships are full of deep-seeded feelings. The emotional bonds you felt for your boyfriend ran deep, and they also ran deep for him as well. Because of this, your ex is not going to let you go all at once. It's much easier for him to let you go little by little, because he still has residual feelings for you.
So yes, your ex boyfriend might still be in love with you – even after breaking things off. This would be why he still calls you up, text-messages you, or fills your email inbox on a daily basis. Yet at the same time, he's not yet ready to get back together. Keep pressing him for a reconciliation, and you might find your ex slipping further and further away.
Here's where you try to walk that fine line … you try to keep that delicate balance between staying in touch with your ex boyfriend without scaring him off. What you do not realize though, is that you're really not doing yourself any favors here. And in most cases, you're actually prolonging the amount of time that you and your boyfriend will be broken up.
Why Your Ex Will not Get Back Together With You Right Now
This cat-and-mouse game your ex is playing with you right now is designed to accomplish one thing: keep you hanging around. Your boyfriend wants to have his cake and eat it too: he'd like you to stick around and wait for him while he goes out and dates other people, and otherwise enjoys being single again.
This is why your ex says he loves you – it's because he does, but it's also because he wants you to have HOPE. Idealistically, he'd love it if you were to sit idly by as his backup plan, just in case he can not find another girlfriend that's better. And if he does? Suddenly he does not love you as much anymore, or he stops calling you altogether. That's when he'll tell you his feelings 'just are not the same', and that's when you'll lose your ex for good. All because you sat around passively dealing with your breakup instead of being proactive about it.
What To Do When Your Ex Boyfriend Says He Loves You
When your ex starts telling you how much he still cares about you, that's the exact time you need to step away. The more he presses forward by revealing his true feelings, the further you need to pull back and keep some distance between you and your former lover.
This is not because you're playing games, it's actually the opposite. You're letting your boyfriend know he can not have it both ways: he can not have the friendship and companionship of still having you around while maintaining the freedom of being single. Do not give him the safety and security of knowing you still love him while he's out playing the field, or not committing himself to you 100%.
Tell your ex that yes, you love him, but that you can not continue living out half a relationship. Let him know it's best if you both went your separate ways, because you can not keep hearing about how much he loves you yet does not want to get back together with you again.
Do this, and you're forcing your ex boyfriend to make a choice. You're making him choose to have all of you, or have none of you at all. And while this might sound harsh, and it may be a bit scary? It's actually the one thing that will make your ex realize that he wants you back, rather than run the risk of losing you to someone else.